allah, the exalted, says:

"(those) who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, allah loves al-muhsinأn (the good-doers).'' (3:134)

"and verily, whosoever shows patience and forgives, that would truly be from the things recommended by allah.'' (42:43)

648. abu hurairah (may allah be pleased with him) reported: a man said to messenger of allah (pbuh): "i have relatives with whom i try to maintain good relationship but they sever relations with me; whom i treat kindly but they treat me badly, with whom i am gentle but they are rough to me.'' he (pbuh) replied, "if you are as you have said, then it is as though you are feeding them hot ashes and you will not be without a supporter against them from allah, as long as you do so.''
[muslim].

commentary:  also owing to its obvious relevance with this chapter this hadith has been mentioned here. the above-mentioned verses and this hadith impress on a believer that in order to win the pleasure of allah, he should be forgiving and tolerant with regard to the sufferings he experiences at the hands of people. both, good behaviour and the example of the prophet (pbuh), call for such an attitude.